Lessons of a Future Counselor

My practicum ended this week.
Huge sigh of relief.
It was quite possibly the most emotionally draining experience of my life.
It gave me a flash of insight about what God does for us (only He’s perfect and never has to deal with his personal triggers and biases).
I was never more vulnerable about who I was with my classmates.
I told them how much I struggled as a young mom to find my confidence and my voice. I told them how much my Catholic faith matters. I told them that I don’t feel respected for being Catholic in this program. I told them how much I care. I cried. And….they loved me.

I never expected that. I kicked myself because I didn’t think anyone who didn’t share my core values could truly understand me…and they understand me more than people I’ve known for years. And none of them are Catholic.

I learned that who I am is enough and I can finally let my hair down.

I learned that I’m triggered when people think I’m too young to be competent in my abilities (probably parallels with my fears about being a young mom that is good enough).

I learned that I’m human, and that is my strongest asset.

I learned my greatest liabilities are also my greatest strengths.

I learned that this world is filled with more brokenness, despair, abuse, pain, and suffering than I ever imagined….and I learned that there is still joy and laughter.

I learned about resilience.

I learned about perspective…a field of dandelions can either be a field of weeds or a field of wishes.

I learned that people are doing the best that they can with what they have.

I learned that all people really want….the secret to humanity…is to be loved and accepted for who they really are, brokenness and all.

I learned that all people want is to be real and authentic…but they are terrified of what that means.

I learned that being vulnerable and weak is when we are actually at our strongest.

I learned the power of the simple words “tell me more”.

I learned that silence is good.

I learned that we should never apologize for our true feelings.

I learned that growth is hard, scary, and it often gets worse before it gets better.

I learned how much I need to find joy and pray.

I learned that laughter really does heal all bad days.

I learned that when my heart is thumping, my hands are sweating, and my mouth is dry, is the most important moment for me to speak up.

I learned that meeting people where they are at is the most powerful way to encourage someone.

I learned that people are afraid of their own strengths and capabilities, but that once they break through that fear they are the masters of their own life.

I learned that roses really can bloom from a thornbush.


7 thoughts on “Lessons of a Future Counselor

  1. Wow this was probably one of my favorite posts you have written! There is just so much knowledge even in your young age. It truly is the best feeling to meet people who while they may not believe everything you do they are still willing to get to know you because they love the person you are! Thank you for writing this simply beautiful piece! I excpecially like the part about perspective an the dandelions. Same with roses as well you may have thorns but because of them you also have beautiful petals!:)

  2. Wow, so many good bits of wisdom here. That’s so wonderful that you were able to get to that place with your classmates and really feel accepted – even though your core values are radically different. I am so interested to hear more from your perspective as you have more experiences in counseling!

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